Ability to give thanks and see the positive in any situation is important, but we can see that it is rampant in society quite the opposite. In many situations, we are so easily lamented prolonged with various situations that we face. In the political world, we more often see politicians complain or vent in the mass media, how he was wronged and attacked political opponents. Is it unethical actions in business and politics are so dominant, so we often felt they had no control over external factors? Or, not consciously aware of, we perform manipulative actions, namely complaining to stimulate compassion, to get attention, even get the “power”?

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But is not that way, however unattractive and unsympathetic? If we, do not want to look sloppy, we would have to stop using our flaws and weaknesses of the situation, to attract the sympathy of others. When a public figure or a leader, we do not want to lose the “follower”, we certainly have to have another strategy that is not mushy.

Act, not react
All would agree, saying: “If the dog bites you, do not bite the dog back”. In fact, this is easier said than practiced, especially if we get a barrage of insults that is not necessarily true or not. However, whether self-defense reaction that will benefit us?

A friend who also had a lot of pressure, difficulty and competition, appear strong because it always holds the principle that all the criticism, pressure, and the barriers they experienced was an opportunity to advance. He commented: “Avoid the ‘demoralizing’, do not let ourselves hurt and discouraged mentality”.

Yes, it is we who determine whether we view the situation with a sour or remain neutral, any heavy pressure. From this friend, I also learned that certain things should be done is to recognize and resist the reaction which occurs when the pressure comes. We need to try to digest and to hold, before giving a negative mental responses. Hurt, offended, and the will to defend ourselves that appeared normal, and we recognize our need to maintain a positive mental approach.

We would have to prove that our impulsive reactions would likely bring the situation worse. Many people do not believe that by selecting the action and reaction that we spend with a positive screen, we might have to maneuver to achieve our goals.

Instead of saying, “I’m sick, so can not exercise,” we are actually better to say that we want to take a break.

Instead of complaining about “My job is boring”, we had better say that we’re evaluating things that are important in our work. And if ever need the added value of other places, we can say it’s time to find another job.

Instead of complaining: “my political opponent of cheating,” is not it better to tell the public as well as to convince myself that I would “play full of integrity” in this political battle?

In Aikido martial arts sport people learn to follow the movements of the opponent and eventually win situation. From here, we can learn that the efforts and success of holding the reaction, adjust tempo, find the positive in every situation is individual victories in his life.

Be a better person
In a seminar, in which the panel discussion was more pessimistic and will scare even the difficulty of facing the challenges of competition, a panelist who comes from China recalled the importance of a positive view of this phenomenon. As in the writings of China, the word “crisis” has two meanings at once, namely: “danger” and “opportunity”. So really, the criticism from superiors, complaints from customers, or tripped by a competitor, is a condition which is not bad, but at the same time we can use to make ourselves better.

When we “attacked” or “abused” by others, but we managed to bring ourselves to the positive side, at least we can feel the two “victories”. First, we will “feel good about Ourselves”. Sense of relief and confidence will arise, and this is very healthy life. The second victory was an increase in our self-image in the public eye. We’ll be seen as people who are optimistic and open to trouble.

What if the criticism is true and open up our weaknesses? We would still be positive by insisting that “nobody’s perfect”. We must at times make mistakes. It is sometimes hard to make us accept the criticism is because we often confuse it with personal attacks. It would be more effective if we see that the error in the action, decision, or the solutions that we take, do not make ourselves to be “low”.

As long as we really intend to become a better self, we should see what we can learn from the mistakes we did. It’s certainly things we have to prove in the action. Fix erroneous actions can we do this without complaint, even grateful that someone had warned.

(Eileen Rachman/Sylvina Savitri, EXPERD Consultant)

Do not Complain to Attract Sympathy

Perform the following four steps, which helps you achieve a dream come true to make it happen:

1. Make a list.
Believe it or not, this step is not as simple as it sounds. Most of us have many wishes and hopes to go to a place, but we do not know the exact direction and purpose. You’ll have trouble finding what you really want, before digging deeper into yourself.

Ask yourself, what you most want in life? What you most want to do? To find the answer, you can get through a variety of ways. Even when you watch a television show about traveling, cooking shows, anything related to your dreams. Once you find the answer, you can embark on a journey to fulfill whatever you desire.

2. Research.
Do some research into the next step to realize the expectations that had previously been written neatly. This step may save time, money and reduce stress.

For example, if you so want to do social activities, start doing research a variety of fundraising activities in your neighborhood. You can also find information on various social organizations that match the desires and interests.

If you keep the desire of traveling around the world, many of which you can visit the website or blog contains reviews of various places. Do your research before realizing the desire to travel. Because through research, you can make travel plans more mature, equipped with a variety of tips as well as information about interesting places to visit with cost-effective.

Meanwhile, if your desire is to pioneer a new career, but has no skill in that field, as well as doing research. Learn a new field of interest for work at it. Including studying the new environment, culture, and career development possibilities in the new place. You also need to set time before finally switching professions or enter new areas of work. Because you need to increase knowledge and skills to enter the new world.

3. Plan.
Any dream you want to make happen, whether financial, educational, employment, travel, planning can help you achieve it. Before the act, create a plan with caution. If you’ve made a list, then do some research, and make careful planning, whatever you want to make happen can be achieved more easily.

For example, if your dream is to get a job or new career better, create a plan to find a network that can support you to achieve it. Find friends or family who can help and support you. Nothing wrong with telling your friends or family about your dreams as you make your planning. That way, they will know how to help you achieve your dreams.

Making changes in life would be more difficult without the assistance. For example, you decided to go back to school and stop working. In the absence of careful planning, the people closest to you will not understand your purpose. You also need support, especially from family or partner, because you are no longer financially independent as time worked.

4. Do it!
Once you understand what you want most, know the expectations to be realized, the move to make it happen. There was no reason to put off your dream come true.

You have done the research to collect data and facts, including the goals you want to accomplish, from strategic planning to financial. No more waiting for the right time to bring hope when all the stages you’ve already done.

No need to wait for luck or a miracle. Because the real action you can create miracles, which embody the hope that had been buried or delayed.

How to help you achieve a dream come true to make it happen

Holiday atmosphere still feels when you are working with four ways to add energy and reawakened to undergo all the routine work, the following.

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Enjoy Your Work Tips

A. Create a natural ambience.
Re-create the holiday atmosphere at all times be able to add energy and positive thoughts. You can do it with pictures of ‘narcissistic’ when on holiday with friends at your desk. Also display postcards, souvenirs, and place the goods of prey during the holidays. Or buy some flowers, then put it near the table where you work. This should be done in order for you to regain natural environment, such as those obtained during the holidays.

Lazy to leave the room during lunch? This time, change that habit. Enjoy lunch at a small park near the office, capable of giving a new atmosphere. In addition to their vitamin D intake of oxygen and a positive benefit to the body, you also can take a break from decent notebook. Change your habits also go directly to home after office hours. Spend more time outdoors. Instead of complaining because of the jam after work, drop it into the atmosphere of the outdoor cafe and sip a cup of coffee choices.

2. Create a creative idea.
Arrange work schedules, meetings and meetings with clients is to make headaches. Everything feels monotonous or you feel pressed for time and work. Inversely when you set the holiday schedule that provides a pleasant atmosphere. Look, you are more eager to schedule vacation because there is an element of novelty there. You will enjoy the different atmosphere of daily life. You imagine the new things that you will encounter during the holidays, like new experiences, new friends and so on. Well, this spirit can you adopt at work.

Make social life more colorful by searching or exciting experience you’ve never done at all. For example, learn to dance, belly dance or anything else related to a country you like. If you love everything about Italy, just stop by the coffee shop and enjoy Italian food trademark. You can also taste the new menu at a particular restaurant or find a different culinary experience in a restaurant that just opened. You can also invite friends and he’s learning a foreign language that you probably need to make your next trip.

3. Avoid lazy virus.
Do not follow the lazy feeling that often comes after a vacation. Actually make the holiday as an energy source to restart the activities of your solid. If you are lazy, spur ourselves by thinking what if feeling lazy it affects your dismissal from a job? Without a job, you can not save for a trip next exciting is not it? You still need to work hard to plan your vacation next year can be achieved. Think what you will do today. Prioritizing the top five points, the remainder devolved to rest. Instead of constantly complaining, better quickly finish all the tasks that pile up.

4. Control your weight.
When the vacation of your weight may be decreasing. Think back to your vacation agenda. How far can you walk away? How long does water play? From here you can know where the fat in the body. By walking, swimming, even dancing, without feeling you are burning calories. Though spoiled with fine dining favorite, but because of the activities you do too much, the body was reluctant to swell. Well, have a habit of activity during the holidays when you return to work. Eat foods that contain lots of nutrients. Most importantly, Be active in motion. Bring your spirit of the holidays into the office everyday. That way the weight is stable and your spirit back on.

PSI opening was marked by beating gongs by Ambassador to Egypt, Nurfaizi Kelvin, and the Suez Canal University President Prof. Dr. Ahmed Mohammedein. Thus the release of the Embassy in Cairo sent to Reuters.

Suez Canal University in Egypt Open Indonesia Study Centre(kominfo.go.id)

Suez Canal University in Egypt Open Indonesia Study Centre

PSI has several programs, including: Courses Indonesian Language, Library, Café read, Film Indonesia, Café Culture, Indonesia Kitchenware, Held a seminar on Indonesia, provide consultation and academic advising for students who will study on Indonesia.

Ambassador Nufaizi, Indonesia-Egypt relations have passed through a long history, so it needs to be developed from just an emotional connection to the real action is of great benefit to both n Egara.

Suez Canal university rectors, Mohammedein said, the establishment of PSI shows the real steps that Indonesia gives special attention to his faithful friend (Egypt).

Education Attache Embassy in Cairo, Prof, Sangidu, PSI next week to begin with a lesson program, the courses Indonesian archipelago and the introduction of culture and literature will be equipped with a library of books on Indonesia.

As is known, the field of educational cooperation between the University of Suez Canal with the University of Indonesia has been running since 2005.

The program has been completed, and cooperation between the University of Suez Canal with several universities in Indonesia, including students Shortcourse for S2 and S3 (UGM and UNS), Guidance theses and dissertations (UGM and UNS), Pioneer double degree (UGM), Arabic language training for teachers Arabic (UNS, IAIN Surabaya, UGM).

Moreover, Join research between the University of Suez Canal and UNS (University of March), Course Indonesian for students at the University of Suez Canal, KNB Scholarship (Partnership Developing Countries) for students S2 Egypt, to visit the Dream program UGM, Learn Indonesian through Darmasiswa program for Egyptian students for a year in Indonesia.

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